Are you doing what you were called to do?

Starr Bailey
Dec 23, 2025
3 min read

We live in a world where everything seems glamorous. Religion and spirituality used to be staunch… now are simple buzz words that have lost a lot of power. We live in a world where spirituality is now a cloak and a fashion statement. Locs that used to stand for empowerment in Black communities-now often appear as something to wear because it's cute- a fashion statement. Everybody wants it, and want it to consistently look primed and proper, and PLEASE let’s not forget, LONG!

On one hand, stepping into any this lane can feel like wearing your authentic self….. until you question you…… why did you DO THAT?

Everybody wants IT!

When I say IT, I’m definitely not speaking of locs, but I use this one as it was a simple way for me to correlate and go into my topic.

IT. Everybody wants to be “it.” Everyone wants to be THAT person. Who does THAT. WHO has IT all. Not always from a greedy place either, nobody wants to struggle so we all get it, I’m not saying any of this without reason. NOT ALL OF THESE ARE SUPERFICIAL, BUT A LOT OF OF THEM ARE AND THIS IS WHAT I AM SPEAKING ABOUT. IT.

Getting off the hamster wheel of “IT” and doing what your soul is actually calling you to do.

To talk about me for one second it has been one of the most uncomfortable situations through life to consistently step out of the box. Locs are in now, but when I started mine, they weren’t(at least not in my core circle of people). Everybody always wanted to work for themselves I didn’t. Yet I find myself a 15+ year entrepreneur. While in the church is where I felt the most at ease as it were a simple list of rules and if I follow them, I was right f I didn’t follow them, I was wrong. It was simple. Yet on the other side of that is where I actually find my salvation where the rules are not so black-and-white but they go by what I feel I am called to do at the time. And so far, IT (The Greatest Power of all The Most High) has not guided me wrong.

Being in a relationship sexual or otherwise, imitating trends, adopting group slang or behaviors, curating a whole social media persona, suppressing personal boundaries (you know good well you don’t like what they are doing, and yet you allow it), and pursuing a crowd-endorsed career or lifestyle (becoming an influencer or a doctor because your mom said)—often masking their true authentic self.

This is where things get a little tighter. In these arenas, we tend to look at what everyone else has and want to have the same.

But we forget that you are called to your own thing.

We forget that when we were little, we all had dreams in our little hearts-dreams of what we wanted to do and how we wanted to be.

But along the way, we lost track of all things just to survive. This world can be hard and we adapt how we see fit…AT THE TIME!

But times change. Seasons change and of course so do we. And change should be taking us closer to our authentic selves. And that starts with asking you questions about YOU.